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21 Days to Positivity


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By Terence Cole @talesfromterry

Shawn Achor is a New York Times bestselling author who writes about the subjects of happiness and positive psychology. In a lecture at One Day University, Achor spoke about the differences between traditional psychology and positive psychology, and demonstrated how positive psychology can be used to bring people to new levels of happiness and success.

Achor writes that the point of traditional psychology is to return a person back to normal. However, what he studies is positive psychology, which observes the positive outliers of success in the world, people who have exceptional levels of energy, happiness, resilience, musical, intellectual, or artistic abilities, in order to learn from them. By learning from the positive exceptions, he demonstrates that the overall average of people can be brought up. The goal of positive psychology is to bring people to higher levels of positivity and performance than the norm.

His work is based on the premise that the lens through which we view the world shapes our experience of the world, and that even our bodies and immune system respond to how we view the world around us.

Achor also states that environment is not very predictive of a person’s happiness level long term. He found that control or understanding of an environment can only predict 10% of an individual’s happiness. His research showed that 90% of happiness is not because of our external world, but the lens through which we view it, and that the lens is created by experiences and genetics.

One of his biggest observations is that happiness can be a precursor to success, not just the result of success. When the brain experiences happiness or positive thoughts dopamine is released, which increases a person’s level of pleasure and turns on the learning centers of the brain. His research found that if you can get someone to be positive while performing tasks, you can dramatically increase the levels of intelligence, intellectual resources, creativity, and productivity available to that person.

Another interesting idea that Achor came across is called the Tetris Effect. Tetris is a game in which many people enter into a mental loop when playing, because of its repetitive and focused nature. This loop can cause people to apply the skills they use during the loop to other parts of their lives. For example, if a man plays Tetris for too long, he’ll tend to apply his Tetris skills to regular life. A similar mental loop, whether positive or negative, can be created for any kind of work in which a person may be engaged. For instance, a tax auditor may be good at looking for mistakes in tax returns. However, if she is stuck in a work loop when she returns home and scrutinizes her home life in this same manner, she will probably have relationship problems.

Another concept that Achor refers to comes from science. In chemistry, activation energy is required in order for a chemical reaction to occur. In order to catalyze a reaction, a small amount of energy must be expended initially, in order for a large amount of energy to be released by the reaction.

It works the same in our minds. If you want to increase the likelihood of change, then lower the initial energy that must be expended for that change to take place. For instance, if you want to work out after work, rather than go home before the gym, put your gym clothes in your car and drive directly to the gym after work.

The reverse is also true. If there is a habit that you’d like to change, then make it more difficult for you to indulge in the habit. If you want to watch less television, then remove the batteries to the remote and place them in a room where the television isn’t. You may still end up watching television, but the extra activation energy required to do so will make you think twice about sitting down to watch it.

Critics pointed out to Achor that many great artists and musicians were depressed and were still able to create great works of art. Achor is not saying this isn’t possible, but he is stating that all things being equal, the brain functions better when positive, than when stressed, neutral, or depressed.

Achor admits that negatives are part of the world, and that they allow us to learn and experience a range of emotions. However, he’s saying that if you raise your emotional baseline, then when you experience downs they will be shorter, and that overall you will demonstrate higher levels of creativity, intelligence, and engagement on tasks that you work on.

Your Action Plan:

If you want to make your outlook on life more positive for the long term, then Achor has a five-step plan that you should follow. According to William James, the father of modern American psychology, if a person does the same action for 21 days straight, then a life habit will be created. Thus, following Achor’s plan for 21 days consecutively is key. You may think these ideas are common sense, but remember that common sense may not be common practice, and that information is not necessarily transformation.

21 Days to Positivity Challenge:

1) Gratitude – Write in detail three different things you are grateful for each day.

2) Journaling – Write for five minutes about one positive experience you’ve had in the past 24 hours.

3) Exercise – Three to five days per week.

4) Meditation – Meditate daily for 20 to 30 minutes.

5) Random Acts of Kindness – Email someone a “thank you” note or compliment about something daily when you first open your email.

What you think about has a direct effect on how you feel, and you can use Achor’s plan to change your thinking in order to increase the level of positivity in your life. It only takes a few minutes each day to become a more positive you. Give it a try!


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Dodging Blows at Christmas

Countdown in Auckland New Zealand

Countdown in Auckland, New Zealand (image from Wikipedia)

By Terence Cole @talesfromterry

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A couple of years ago I was in New Zealand for Christmas, and my girlfriend and I were shopping in a grocery store called Countdown. We had just checked out with our groceries, when we saw members of the Salvation Army singing. Like many others in the store, we stopped to enjoy the music.

Tip from Terence: Because New Zealand is in the southern hemisphere, its seasons are the exact opposite of the United States. Even though I was there during the Christmas season, the weather was around 80 degrees! While people in the United States may think of snowflakes and Santa Claus for Christmas, New Zealanders think of beaches and barbecue.

A gentleman stood next to me. His clothing and demeanor looked rough, but he was smiling and enjoying the music along with the rest of the crowd. I looked at him and smiled. He looked at me and smiled… Then he PUNCHED me in the throat!


“Cough! Cough!”

Normally, I have good reflexes and should have been able to prevent this! However, not only was I holding two full bags of groceries, but who expects to be punched while listening to the Salvation Army sing at a grocery store?

All I could do was look at him and say, “Why did you do that?”

I then heard my girlfriend yell from the front of the store, “LET’S GO!!!!”

I walked away. About two minutes later the rage caught up with me and I was furious! What on earth just happened? Who assaults someone while listening to Christmas music?

While we were walking home my girlfriend was berating me. She told me that I should have known there was no way to reason with that man, because it clearly looked like something was wrong with him.

She was right, but my mind was racing too much to think about her words. All I could think about was what might have happened had I not walked away. I’ve had three years of Taekwondo training, and every scenario that went through my head ended up with me at a police station!

I got home and began to forgive the man. “Lord, please forgive this man for punching me in the throat! Forgive him, bless him, and release him!” Years ago I learned that forgiveness is a choice and that it should be done as quickly as possible. You don’t necessarily forgive someone for their benefit, but because it removes poisonous anger from your spirit. And because forgiveness is a choice, it can be done whether or not you are at fault. You can’t be sure of why everything happens to you in life, but you can respond in a way that does not keep you in bondage to bad experiences.

After fifteen or so minutes I was calm again.

Looking back, I’m glad that I walked away, because any other response would have been bad for everyone involved! I don’t know what was wrong with that man, but I hope he was able to get the help that he needed.

Remember, just because it looks like everyone is having a good time, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t pay attention. There are both good and “questionable” people all over this world. You just have to be able to discern who is who. Happy travels, and be sure to stay vigilant even if you are listening to the Nutcracker Suite!


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